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Many of my students initially think that shame and guilt are the same emotion. However, psychologists draw a clear distinction between them: with guilt, the focus is on the action you did that was wrong – you feel terrible and want to fix it somehow. You did a bad THING and want to do better. With shame, you also feel terrible but the focus is more on you as a person. You are a bad PERSON and want to give up. Shame tends to shut you down and make you want to go away.
When people feel intense shame they tend to withdraw from others and begin a cycle of ever more negative thinking. Ironically, the situation that initially caused the shame may not even be addressed.People who are ashamed look as if they are trying to disappear – their shoulders come in and down and they seem to shrink, trying to creep away. Shame leads toward depression, but guilt likely spurs a person to action and better behavior that in the end brings a sense of satisfaction.
Does this distinction between shame and guilt fit with what you know?
Can you see how this perspective can inform the process of raising a child, dealing with employees or even how you conduct yourself as a friend?
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