Question

Subject:EC230/EEC2225 Section 1 Guiding children's behavior. But I chose psychology to be easy. I need this answer by today.

An important aspect of encouraging students and not punishing them is to make sure the right person or in this case, the right child is "caught." In any learning space, a common situation occurs when a child kicks or hits another child. The child who kicked or hit is the one who gets in trouble. Be sure to stop when this happens and think for a moment. You saw a child hit one of their friends. She was responding to something that caused her to react in that way. The behavior of hitting/kicking, of course, is not acceptable. However most of the time, the child who started the argument is not the one who is caught. When you pay attention to these things, it shows the children that you are aware of what happens in the learning space and it goes a long way to help kids to feel safe and ready to learn. Most importantly, the wrong child isn't being punished or misunderstood.

For this activity, think of a situation in your own life (whether at work or home) when the "wrong" child --you, yourself-- was caught. Did it make you feel uncomfortable? Did you feel it wasn't fair? Why? If you haven't had such an experience, how do you imagine you would feel? What might be the unintended consequences of such an experience?

Answer 1

Children often feel insecure when they make mistakes or when they get caught doing wrong. But sometimes we as an adult scold them for no reason, just like the case in the question. This breaks them from inside and they feel low in confidence.

But when I compared such situations with my life, I don’t think I have gone through such things or I have done anything wrong which had hurt anyone. Though, I know a friend of mine who did wrong in his childhood and got caught. I can share his experience, my childhood friend was bad in his childhood and he used to do wrong things like hitting other children for no reason, insulting other kids or robbing things of other children. But when we sit now and talk about it today, my friend who did all these things says that he was going through a bad phase in his life. His parents were filling for a divorce which made him disturbed in his life and got very less attention from parents. So he robbed things which he couldn’t get from his home, he hit other children because he felt that it made him happy to see other children in pain. But in his initial stage he didn’t bother about all this, but as he grew he realized that this is wrong, he even said that during that time no one was there to teach him right and wrong.

However, he felt that this things are wrong. But when I think of my self I would have felt ashamed and guilty. And if I got caught my parents would have send me in boardings or they would have beaten me, but later they would come to me and speak about the issues I am going through. The consequences would be severe for me If I was in the situation.