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How do I explain this to my young son?

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Asked at 2010.07.17 22:25:06
My son is starting to hit me with questions I really don't know how to answer.

When I was 17 I had a one night stand with a back packer from another country. I had spent the week hanging out with him, but know very little of him. A month later I found out I was pregnant.
I didn't even consider an abortion. I took responsibility, and have worked very hard to provide my son with a good life.
My son is now 8 and is starting to ask me really tough questions about his "father". Questions like. Does he love me, will I ever see him, where does he live.
Now, I have done everything in my power to find this guy, but it is impossible. I probably will never find him. So I really don't know how to explain this to my son. I can't begin to explain how much this tears my heart out. I'm so lost as to what to tell him. I don't want to lie to my son, but I don't know how to explain the truth.

Please help

Any advice would be great!
answer nunyabiz  Answered at 2010.07.17 22:25:06
I think that since he is bright enough to want to know the answers, he deserves the truth.
Tell him the truth, its amazing what kids really do understand. Tell him that you met a guy, you were only freinds for a week, and he gave you a special gift (your son), and that you have spent alot of time trying to find him to 'thank' him, but cannot find him.
Dont lie to him, or bend the truth, he will know, and he will resent you for it in the future.
Good luck,
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