Question

A growing number of couples (heterosexual as well as homosexual) are opting to create an emotional prenuptial agreement that addresses not financial and material possessions but rather lays out expectations each partner has for building, supporting, maintaining and growing the relationship.

For this task, present what you believe would be most important to you to ensure you have, receive, and give in your relationship. Do NOT include discussion of distribution of material goods; Instead, think about roles, duties, communication needs, etc., that you would like to see. If you are already married, then view this as a postnuptial agreement.

You should present your list as a series of statements: I will, We will, I vow, etc.

Answer 1

Emotional expectations must always be laid out to one's partner. I have always believed that my partner should know what I want from a relationship and vice versa. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. For me, honesty, trust and respect are of utmost importance in a relationship. I would be as honest as I can with my partner, so that he trusts me and does the same to me. It is important to lay down ground rules for expectations because what may be okay with him may not be okay with me. I detest cheating. For me, texting another woman and not telling me, trying to hide, is considered to be cheating. However, he may be alright with me not telling him about talking to a person from the opposite gender. Laying out expectations made him understand my definition of cheating and vice versa. Honesty and trust, both remained intact in our relationship after we discussed about our expectations and created an emotional prenuptial agreement.