Question

discuss the complexity of issues that a victim has to consider when contemplating leaving an abusive situation and impediments to her decision to seek safety for herself and or her children.

Answer 1

The above question is very common for a woman who has been tucked to an abusive situation but can not make a very clear decision when she wants to come out from that environment. The making decision becomes more difficult if she is having child/children and she has been victimized by her own partner.

Let's discuss the complexity of the issue that a victim has to consider and impacts her decision to ensure safety for herself and for her children:

What if she decides to get separated from her partner

Mothers generally get more attached and protective to their children more than their fathers. If her partner is ready to give the child custody to her but does not provide required financial support she might face a lot of struggle in her children's upbringing. Even if she might be confident enough to make earning by self she might be in guilt to make her children deprived of their father's support and care.

If her partner keeps the children with him them also she will either will be in guilt for not taking care of children or will be always insecure about their children's better upbringing because she will not be sure if in her absence how her child gets treated by her partner or others. There will be always a scope of doubt in mind regarding her children's financial and social support.

What if she does not decide to get separated from her partner

On the other hand, if she does not choose to get separated and choose to tolerate the sake of their children and herself protection from the other nasty social problems like blame and noise generated by society. She has to be always ready to experience intense emotional devastation. However, finally, she might feel secure as she and her children may be dependent on her partner's earning.

If the abusiveness contains some kind of physical violation she will be always unsafe there emotionally and physically as well. A woman in a painful state of mind can only survive but neither can live her own life to fullest not give a better upbringing to their children.

Hence we can see that that both kinds of decisions has their pros and cons which is very valid to keep a victim in dilemma.